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How to Get a Girl to Take Naked Pictures

Get a Girl to Take Naked PicturesIf you are reading this, you’re probably looking for some tips on how to get a girl to take naked pictures or send you some sexy pics. Although I’m not as skilled as a Hugh Hefner, I do have a nice collection I’ve built up over the years. So, I’m gonna share the things that have worked for me. It should go without saying that if the girl is barely into you then you shouldn’t be jumping to asking her for nude pics. If you don’t have at least a bit of attraction and trust, it will just make her think you’re creepy.

However, if there is some attraction there, you may just be moments away from having her pose in the buff. Before you start scrolling down, I want you to know that there are TWO PARTS to this in depth article.

The first focuses on how to get a girl to send you naked pictures. The second part deals with you being physically present and near a girl. This means you are in the same location – thus it deals with how to get a girl to pose naked for you. You can read the whole article or click on the section that interests you the most.

Lastly, before I spill my legendary techniques, I want you to promise me you’re going to use them responsibly. In other words, you’re going to keep the pics these girls send you private and never show them to anyone! Do I have your word?

All right, so here’s my advice to you.

How to Get a Girl to Send You Naked Pics

This first section focuses on how to get a girl to take naked pictures and send them to you over the phone. In it, I discuss different ways to make that happen. If you encounter any problems, go to the Troubleshooting section of this post.

If She Is REALLY Into You

This is pretty self-evident, but if she is into you, then you have a lot more freedom in what you can say to her. She’ll cut you more slack because she likes you. The techniques below are for the girls that really like you.

Be Direct

Yes, you can straight up ask for naughty pics, but she has to like you a lot and you have to be able to tell she’s into you from her texts or phone conversations. If she’s into you (you’ve had sex or at least have made out), then you can ask her to send you a sexy pic. If you can’t tell where you are at with her or you don’t know her that well, then I recommend you check out the next section.

Lead Off

If you know she likes you, then you can initiate the sexy pics. First take a pic of yourself without your shirt on or flexing (as long as you are not super fat) it’s all good. Then send it and ask her to send you a pic back. Something along the lines of, “Your turn.”

If You are Not Sure How Much She Likes You

If you just met a girl and you’re not really sure how into you she is, then you can try a more cautious approach. This way you increase your chances of getting the pic, while diminishing the risk of her calling you a creep.

Steer the Conversation Towards Pictures

If you’ve just met the girl or don’t know here that well, when you are texting or in conversation you should just steer the conversation towards pics. It can be any topic related to pictures, taking pictures, silly pictures, animal pictures, etc.

Once the conversation is on pictures and you’ve discussed some awesome pics or funny pics or whatever, then you can move on to the next step.

Keep It Ambiguous

To maximize your chances of success, you should ask for the pics in a way that’s open to interpretation. Here’s an example that I use in my texts: “speaking of pics, send me a sexy one” In this case “sexy” is left a bit ambiguous because you didn’t say naked. This type of message also lets you gauge how “in” you are with the girl. Her response will let you know how likely she is to send you a nude pic now or in the future.

There are only 3 possible outcomes.

She sends you a naked photo, in which case don’t forget to tip me on the way out because I hooked you up with the knowledge that made it possible. The second is that she sends you a sexy pic in which she is clothed. If this happens, you can text back, “Well you look good, but I want to see a SEXIER one” or if you are feeling brave, “Again, same pose, but with less clothes” Here you are giving her a BIG hint without coming right out and saying it! Lastly, she responds with some variation of “No”. If she says, “No” then just play it off by teasing her, saying, “Oh, I see where you mind is at!” And play innocent. Say something like, “I meant a pic where you are in a sexy pose dork.” It’s important that you figure out why she said “No” (more on this in the Troubleshooting Section) without being emotionally affected.

Put the Idea In Her Head

A great way to have her start thinking about it is to bring it up through a story. Tell her a funny story about one of your friends, a person online, or yourself involving the sending of a naked picture. Gauge her responses and then ask if she has ever sent someone a naughty pic. If she hasn’t done it before, tell her you want to be her first.

How to Get a Girl to Pose Naked for You

This part of the article focuses on how to get the girl to let you take naked pictures of her in person. So you are basically playing an amateur photographer taking pics of her in the nude. Again, if you encounter any resistance, check out the Troubleshooting section.

Make Sure You Are In  a Comfortable Environment 

When asking to take naked pictures of a woman, you should be in a comfortable place. Preferably a bedroom where it’s not too cold or hot. You want her to feel comfortable staying naked. This is not set in stone, but I know that when the room is cold girls quickly get under the sheets or tend to want to keep their clothes on.

Make Some Drinks

Although I don’t drink it anymore, alcohol is quite effective at lowering inhibitions. Having a drink or two puts you and the girl in a more calm, relaxed, pleasant, and suggestive mood. A mood where anything can happen. At the same time it offers girls an excuse to get crazy and let out their wild side. I’ve had girls say they would “never” take naked pictures, then we had a couple of drinks and they started taking off their own clothes. When I asked them about it later, they gave the old “I was drunk” excuse. Few girls get drunk after 1-2 drinks, but they used “drinking” to excuse their behavior.

Bring It Up

If you want a girl to start posing for you, then you need to bring it up in conversation. You could say tell her a story of how you like girls who are adventurous/free/open minded or mention how you’ve always wanted to take a picture of her naked. Gauge how she handles it and proceed onward.

Don’t Make It Into A Big Deal

Believe it or not, the more important the naked pic is to you, the less likely you will get of it. If you are horny, needy, or desperate for it or other things sexually related – girls will sense it like sharks sense blood in the water! This will make anything sexually related (naked pics) an uphill battle for you. So don’t be insistent or pushy – have that, “I can take it or leave it” attitude.

Start Small 

If you want to end up taking naked pictures of a girl, you should first start small. Compliment her on a great physical feature she has and ask her if you can take a quick picture of it. For example, “You have the most beautiful breasts I have ever seen, I want to take a picture of them.”

Time It Right 

Timing can make or break the whole sexy pics thing, so try to discuss it when she’s in a good mood or when she’s half dressed. Maybe after you’ve just had an amazing sex session or when you’re both in her bed and she’s wearing some sexy short shorts. The important thing is to discuss it first. Another words, don’t just get out your phone and start snapping away, tell her what you want to do first and then let her reactions guide you from there.

Gain Her Trust

Tell her no one will ever see the pictures, except for the two of you. Let her know that you want the pic(s) because seeing her naked turns you on. I know it can be tempting to let your friends see the pics, but if you want this to be a repeat event – don’t share them with anyone. I know how bad you probably want to show off to your boys, but that’s a risk because one of them could tell her about it.

Make It Fun

Once she allows you to take a picture, make it fun for her. Tell her to pout, make a sexy face, blow you a kiss, etc. If you’re both having fun, a woman’s naughty side will gradually come out. You can even pretend she’s a model and you’re a photographer. You know – role-play!

Show A Sign Of Good Faith

Ask her to chose her favorite out of all the pictures you took. Then go through the pics and show her your favorite. Tell her only those two will be kept. Proceed to delete the rest of photos while she is with you. This will ensure there are only a couple of naked pictures and that the experience was something you both enjoyed. It will also build trust for future photo shoots.


Ok, so this section is mainly for figuring out what to do if she declines. If she has objections you will have to address them. Below you will find some of the most common objections and ways of dealing with them. But before that you need to know what to do in case she says, “No.”

Stay Cool If She Declines

The main ways I’ve seen guys mess this up is that they get all butthurt if the girl refuses. That is the WORST thing to do because it just proves to her you are one of those loser/beta/needy guys who cries when he doesn’t get his way. You want to stay cool no matter what she says and continue the convo like it never happened. If she says, “No”, then you can tease her a bit but do NOT ever get mad, sad, silent, etc. Just say something along the lines of, “It’s cool, you’ll send it when you’re ready” or “Relax, I understand if you don’t have proper lighting today.” Usually if you are cool about it, you can ask again in the future. Just don’t badger her about it.

Don’t Apologize for Asking

Some girls will try to test you by calling you a pervert or creepy or saying how they can’t believe you asked them to send you “those types of pics” and that they are “not those types of girls.” They will want you to take back your words and make you feel ashamed for what you did. Do NOT buy into this frame. Do NOT apologize for asking.

Say things like, “I like your body and I assumed you were more adventurous” or “Easy, we’re both adults here.” These are just things I’ve said off the top of my head. If she continues berating your or trying to get you to buy into her frame just end the convo with something arbitrary or silly, “Food’s here, ttyl” or “Good chat coach” Don’t let any woman make you feel bad about asking. You can ask and she can decline…simple. No need to accept her chastising for your verbal expression of a desire.

Decipher the “No”

If a girl says “No” she will usually give a reason or you can briefly ask her why. Here are a few possible scenarios and how to deal with them.

Moving Too Fast

If a woman says that she does not know you that well or that you are moving too fast, it’s usually a comfort or trust issue. You will need to make her feel more comfortable. She is rejecting the idea because, she does not know enough about you. She really doesn’t know if you will share the pictures with others or keep them to yourself. Since she is unsure, she will say, “No.”

In this case, you need to back off. Tell her, “It’s cool, I don’t want you to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.”  Then proceed to tell her more about yourself (share stories, experiences, etc). Basically build more of a connection. I would not bring it up again that day, instead wait until some other time. You will have to use common sense and see if she is open to the idea. If not, don’t push it. I had a few times where girls initially said no. I didn’t push it and a few days later they brought it up. Just goes to show you, that being patient and laid back can go a long way towards making things happen.

Is Afraid Someone She Knows Will See Them

Tell her it’s cool and that you won’t take a picture of her face, just her body. This should disarm her objections since no one will be able to recognize any of her intimate areas unless they are already familiar with them.

If she still insists that she doesn’t want to, then there is another issue. Maybe she’s not comfortable enough yet or maybe she does not trust you or maybe she is not really into you. Again, back-off and tell her it’s ok. Don’t push things, just slowly probe her with a couple of questions and try to read in-between the lines.

She Says She’s Taken Them Before and The Guy Shared Them With Everyone

In this case, get on your computer and “Google” them, they’re already on the internet!

Just kidding.

In this instance it’s definitely a trust issue. Basically she was open to it before, but because some guy wasn’t able to keep the pics to himself, he ruined it for everyone else. So just work on building more trust.

Again, start small and don’t make it into a big deal. Tell her something like, “Well, I’m not like other guys, I’m not interested in the typical sexy pics. (switch to sexual tone) I want a pic of your…(pause)… ankle, and then…we will move to your amazingly sexy…(pause)…elbow! Oh yes.”

Keep it light and fun. Proceed to tell her, “I promise to keep these very sexy pics to myself without sharing them. It will be challenging, but I will do this for you. If I do this successfully, we will take even sexier ones. Deal?”

If she is not laughing by now, move on because she is probably a prude.

You probably won’t have to wait a week, you can try pushing the envelope with, “No, wait, I must have one of the jaw as well. Yes, very nice. And the shoulders. Amazing! Oh, wait, what do we have here? The ladies, yes, they are twins, just one quick one. Yes, good. Nice.”

Hope I’ve given you something to think about. If you have any other questions, hit me up in the comments section below.

20 comments… add one
  1. How do I get her to send me a pic of her ass. But I want to ask her in a subtle way not pushing her

  2. Try playing a game like truth or dare. They when she says dare slowly ease her into sending you nudes. Got some today because of this way.

  3. …response to GIRL…

    “Good chat coach”

  4. I like to show my self of

  5. Tell her what kind of underwear you’re wearing. I have recieved things like, “Let me see,” but that is rare and I was lucky. Ask her if she wants to see, if she says yes you say, “But you’ll have to show me what underwear you have on,” and if she she says something like, “I’ll see,” send the picture anyways and keep bringing up the topic smoothly if she still hasen’t yet sent a photo. This is a slow start as it will only get more freakier.

  6. I’m have a problem here, there are two girls, they both have wonderful tits and decent ass. One of them I have known for 8 years and I don’t know if that will get me closer to the nudes because we have a decent trust bond, any advice?

  7. I lile thhis girl but what should i say if she regects me

  8. Best website ever

  9. So this girl was snapchatting me in her bra but im afraid if i ask her for nudes shell spread a rumor that im a perv or something should i go for it?

  10. Good

  11. I have a friend who is sexy but every time I bring up the topic she gets mad and calls me and asshole! We is also very very confusing because sometimes she doesn’t get mad but says she doesn’t like her body and doesn’t want me to see her flaws. How do I convince her she is sexy and how do i get her to send me nudes that I can keep (not on snapchat)?

  12. “(as long as you are not super fat)”

  13. Brandon, it sounds like you have a prude on your hands. Your GF being far from you only compounds the problem as you don’t have as much influence over her if she’s far away. I want to ask you a question. How much do you like this girl? If you don’t care that much, then you should go for it. Tell her to just send you some sexy pics of herself clothed. Try to get her into that habit first. Do that for a couple of weeks. Then gradually ask her to send you “sexier” pics. If she doesn’t want to do that, then just wait till you see her and then try to take some pics in person.

    In your situation (and I’ve been there a couple of times), I would just skip the sexy pics and have her either get on Skype or Facetime you and tell her to do a sexy strip-show for you. Tell her you want her to strip for you bc you can’t stand being so far away from her and that you need a sexual release – otherwise you may do something crazy! (leave “crazy” as vague as possible, but if she insists imply the you may cheat on her). If she’s not down for that, then maybe try sex talk over the phone first. If she’s not down for that either, then GET A NEW GIRLFRIEND!!! Walk away! There are plenty of girls without sexual hangups out there!

  14. My girlfriend and I have had a long distance relationship for two years. Through those years neither one of us brought up the idea of nudes, until yesterday when I mentioned it. She told me she never has and never will take nudes, nor does she want to receive any from me. I want some pretty badly, any advice on what I should do?

  15. Brad, if she trusted you as much as you say, I don’t think it would be a problem. She is afraid they will end up on the internet or worse – Facebook! I think she is using morality as an excuse. Personally, I think the “immoral” thing is an excuse that most men will accept. If you push it, it won’t work.

    What you need to do is to start slow, just say you want some sexy pics of her clothed at first. Then a couple weeks later ask her to take her top off and take some pics. TELL HER they are just for you and you just want them for when you are apart. I dunno, say you’d rather masturbate to her pics than porn, now there’s a compliment for ya! If she still doesn’t agree, then I would give up. Either she’s dead set on not taking them bc she has some mental hang-up about it or she doesn’t see you as a long term partner. I know that sounds harsh, but her frame of “It’s immoral!” is beating your frame of “I want these just for me!” Better to be laid back and nonchalant about it. Try to tease her about it.

    If that still doesn’t work, you could push for them, but you could make her feel uncomfortable to where she ends it. But if you don’t care, then you can get blatant and look at naked women on your phone straight up in front of her and say, “Well, I rather have some of you to look at, but you don’t trust me enough to let me take a few ‘sexy’ pics.” Your frame should be that she doesn’t trust you enough.

  16. My girlfriend of two years always tells be how much she trusts me and that she’s told me many things that only I’ve been told about her. However, anytime I’ve brought up nudes (probably 9 times), she gets mad and says how shocked she is that I’d ask for them. She says it’s a moral thing but I’d love to have some pictures to hold on to while we are apart. What should I do?

  17. Omg i’ve being talking to this burd for like 3 days and i know have like 10-15 pictures of her thank you bro never got that many with out your advice

  18. My gf does not send nudes and may break up with me if I send nudes, how do I send/receive nudes from her without her getting mad?

  19. Get a good camera that has built in wifi or 4G capabilities that automatically uploads each picture to the cloud.

    This way take all the pics you want, wait a few minutes for them to upload to the cloud and then you can go back and let her delete the ones she doesn’t like.

    She thinks they are gone and you actually hsve all of them.

    It’s good for the girls who Insist they do not want their face shown.

  20. I have a good friend and she has a sexy sister and I’m his sister’s friend too but I want her to send me her naked pics. Once upon a time she told me that she trusts me but I don’t know that how much she trusts me? Does she trusts me that much that she can comfortably send me her naked pics and I had talked to her about sex, smooch etc etc and she is totally comfortable with it and I trust her and she played a game with me about some thoughts in that game she told me that I’m one of her good friend and how can I tell her that she is Sexy. She is very sexy and I haven’t told it to her yet but I want to tell her that she is sexy and I want her to send me her naked pics?
    does sending my naked pics to her makes this easy and more comfortable for her?
    or Do I have to develop my friendship with her.

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