Why You Should Start Talking to 9s and 10s

A few months ago, I was in JFK airport in New York when I decided to approach this really beautiful girl.

I hate to use ratings (aside from clickbait titles ; ) because I feel ratings kind of mess you up when you start using them (it’s a validation seeking slippery slope). But just to help you understand her beauty – she was movie star hot. She could have easily been on the cover of Maxim magazine. A really attractive girl.

She was with her mother and her little brother. And she was saying goodbye to her best friend who was going to Istanbul.

I saw her as I was waiting in line to check-in my bags.  Her small group was waiting in line at the other check-in nearby. I’d say I was about 10 feet away from them.

She was dressed in tight jeans and a short tight shirt that was showing a bit of her sexy flat stomach. She had perfect proportions. A Coke bottle shape. Just ridiculous!

The hot babe and her friend were hugging. It looked like her friend and the friend’s mother were leaving and going to Istanbul for a while.  They had several huge pieces of luggage.

At first, I hesitated because I didn’t want to go in and interrupt their emotionally charged hug. I wanted to be somewhat calibrated.

Another reason I hesitated is that sometimes these really hot girls still intimidate me. Even though I think I’ve come such a long way and I don’t care what happens most of the time, sometimes these really hot ones affect me. Some of them send me straight into my head.

I believe the reason is because I have not approached and slept with enough of them. They are rarer. This was the type of girl that if she walked through a restaurant, everybody would turn their heads to follow her. At least every guy with a working penis.

As soon as they finished hugging, I went in.

I think the total time from when I noticed her until I approached was around 45 seconds. Once they stopped hugging, I didn’t care what they were talking about. I didn’t say “Hi” to everybody. I just approached her because she was the only one I was interested in.

I approached her while maintaining perfect eye contact. You have to look these beauties right in their eyes. Do not flinch. Do not look away. Be 100% committed.

As I looked into her eyes, I said, “Hi. I noticed you from over there and I think you’re cute. My name’s Jack. What’s your name?”

I didn’t interact with anyone else in her group. Not her friend, not her little brother, not her mom.

She just looked at me incredulously. Her mom’s jaw dropped, her jaw dropped, and she went into Porky Pig mode.

This is really, really rare for a hot girl. Porky Pig mode is where the girl is just stuttering like Porky Pig. She’s was stunned.

And next is where I believe I made my one and only mistake.

Shortly after I introduced myself, I extended my hand to shake hers. And even though I was not showing any neediness through my eye contact, body language or anything else, I think I extended my hand a little too early. And I left my hand up there, expecting her to shake it, a little too long.

She looked at my hand and said, “Uhhhh?!? Do I know you?”

Unfazed in the slightest, I responded with, “No, but we can get to know each other.”

Keep in mind that I still had my hand up for her to shake.

And as she was looking at my hand, she muttered, “Ummm, I’m sorry. I’m sorry” while shaking her head “No.”

I just said, “OK, well, have a good day.” and I just turned around and I went back to my bags like nothing ever happened.

If a girl is not receptive, especially during hardcore approaches like this one, you leave! Don’t be one of those weird guys that tries to “plow” in a social violating way. Doing that is creepy, weird, and so cringey.

In any case, there are two reasons she could have rejected me:

1. She was in a very non-receptive state because she was saying goodbye to her best friend. So her sad emotional state and the current situation meant she was not in the mood to meet a man (any man).

2. I was a little bit needy with the handshake. I should have dropped my hand when she didn’t take it. Like I said, I didn’t feel like I was needy, but maybe me keeping my hand up there for her to shake could have been interpreted as such.

In any case, I am proud of myself. I went in there and approached this really hot girl. I didn’t have anything to lose and I actually gained more confidence because I went for it.

I was passing through JFK and chances are I’m never going to see this girl again. And I went for it, even though the chances of it being successful were extremely low.

It was such a ridiculous approach. An almost impossible approach. Impossible by most men’s standards at least.

They were basically hugging it out and saying their goodbyes. Their moms were there. Her little bro was there. Both girls were sad that they weren’t going to see each other for a while.

And I roll up and interrupt all that in order to tell her I find her attractive.

ZFG all the way.

What were the chances of that going down successfully?

Maybe 0.05%?

Maybe lower.

So why did I even attempt this low probability approach?

Well, I did this approach because I don’t see enough of these hot girls during the day. It’s very rare. They’re like freaking unicorns. You’ll see a lot of them in posh nightclubs in Vegas or Miami or L.A. Of course you will see a lot of them there. But during the day, I almost never see them. And this chick was done up. She looked like she was going clubbing after saying goodbye to her friend.

There are two lessons you can learn from this.

Firstly, I approached this girl, even though the chances of me getting her were slim to none. Even so, I wanted the experience of going up and making my intentions known to a super hot chick and not caring about the result.

I wasn’t thinking, “Oh, yeah, I’m definitely gonna get rejected!”

That’s not what was going through my mind.

It was more like, “There’s a low probability of success here, but, I’m gonna go in anyway. I want this experience!”

And that’s all that matters. It’s true that with this chick there was a high chance of it not working out. There was a high chance of rejection, but I didn’t give a fuck because there will be another girl just as hot as this one or maybe hotter, that I will be going up to in the future that will enjoy my ultra-confident approach.

And this experience will improve my chances or set me up for success with the next girl.

In the future, maybe I’ll see a girl at a coffee shop. Another ridiculously hot one. Every dude will be looking at her, but they’ll be too intimidated to approach while I’ll just go up like I’m going for a walk or like it’s something mundane. It will be so natural for me, because I have approached so many other hot ones before her.

And this is the lesson most guys miss out on. This is what a lot of guys don’t get. They think, “Oh, I don’t want to get rejected! Oh, I don’t want to look like a fool! Oh crap, people are gonna look at me!”

You shouldn’t  care about that. What’s more important, other people’s opinions of you or your opinion of yourself? Other’s people’s opinions or you getting the hot girl?

What if I were to tell you, “Hey, you can get your blueprint girl. Your ideal girl. Exactly like you want her to look. Blonde. Brunette. Big boobs. Big ass. Whatever you want. Perfect proportions. Victoria’s Secret Model. Tennis player. Whatever your ideal girl is, you can get that girl!

But in order to get that girl, you have to be rejected by 50 other hot girls that are just as attractive as her.

Would you do it?

98% of guys wouldn’t!

I would do in a second because I would want those rejections to come as fast and as quick as possible so I can get to my ideal girl.

Give me those rejections! I will go through 49 like it’s nothing. This is the mentality you need in order to get 9s or a 10s.

You need to realize that this game is is not just based on how smooth you are or how good your game is. It is also very random.

Yes, good game helps, but being a seducer is still very similar to being a salesman. Even the best salesmen, only make a sale 20% of the time.

This is the mindset you need to adopt.

Welcome the rejections. Welcome the adversity.

Adversity builds character.

And not only that, I think my next point is really important.

I want you to read the next part very carefully.

I think your character is just like someone making a really great sword. If you ever watched the movie Kill Bill, you will remember that Hanzo swords were these amazing swords. You basically want to become a Hanzo sword.

They were so high quality because of the way they were made.

And how were those swords made?

The maker took raw steel and heated it. Then he pounded it with a large hammer. Over and over and over and over again until it because a beautiful sharp sword. And that steel become so sharp and so durable you could cut through concrete.

That’s how your character will become over time. That’s how your body language will be. That’s how your eye contact will be. That’s how your tonality will be.

But in order to get there, what needs to happen? What do you think those hammers represent? Those hammers represent rejection. Those hammers represent pain. Those hammers represent you overcoming obstacles and failure. And you’re taking them over and over again. And you have to keep on taking those hammers and go back for more.

Otherwise, you will never change. Your will never become attractive to women.

If you give up, you’ll go the MGTOW way or you will go monk mode forever or you will give up on girls and you’ll just start living a life devoted to pornography and video games and other bullshit.

Women are part of what makes life beautiful.

You don’t want to be one of those losers that says, “Oh well, the game is rigged. I’m not playing anymore.”

No! Take your licks. Take your rejections. Take the pain and become a freaking Hanzo sword. A sword that can take on anybody and anything.

Just do not give up. Yeah, it’s gonna suck. And you know what? This game is not for quitters. Just like business is not for quitters.

Everybody wants to be a millionaire, but nobody wants to take the pain of starting a business, losing it, going through bankruptcy, having to sleep on a friend’s couch, begging people for money, sleepless nights, anxiety, stress, gray hairs.

A lot of people that made it big have gray hairs. Just look at some of the top entrepreneurs. There’s so much stress involved in running a big business. And I have a lot of friends here in Europe that have great businesses, and almost all of them have gray hair.

Everybody wants the millions, but nobody wants to work through the failure and pain.

Same thing with seduction. Everybody wants to fuck the hot chick, the model, the prom queen, the club thot, or Instagram model. But nobody wants to push through the rejection and pain.

But every rejection is like a stepping stone toward the girl that you’re going to meet in the future. The attractive girl that will be very receptive to your approach.

Because of rejection, eventually you will just stop giving a shit, she’ll see it in your eyes. She will see that you’re not afraid of her. She’ll see that her beauty does not intimidate you. Her beauty does not trance you out. And that’s what you’re striving for.

You’re taking these hammers boom, rejection, boom, rejection, boom! Rejection! But they are molding you into a freaking Hanzo sword. A sharp deadly sword.

And all this rejection will build up your confidence. You will be able to use it towards all aspects of your life.

Next time you see a really hot girl, remember these words. Remember them and go in and approach that attractive girl.

No fear. Do not give a shit.

Even if it does not work out with that particular girl, her rejection will set you up for your eventual hot girl.

You might not get this one.

You might not get the next one.

You might not get the next one, but you will get one eventually if you keep at it.

I speak from experience. You just have to take your freaking hammers and keep going. It’s going to hurt. Growth often cause pain. While the pain is not physical like it is when you lift weights. There will be some mental anguish.

But you’re going to get back up, get back out there and build yourself into a freaking beast of a man. A confident masculine man.

Just keep at it. You will grow from each experience. From each approach. From each conversation. From each date. From each sexual experience. In a few years, you won’t even recognize your old self.

You have to make the choice. Do you stay in your comfort zone or do you push past it and grow?

Only you can decide!