Today I want to talk about why you need to overcome adversity. Why you need to go through hardship. Why you need to be challenged by obstacles.

Adversity builds you up into a person that is strong, resilient, and most of all very certain of himself.

But most people want to take the easy way out.

“Oh, I don’t want rejections.”

“I just want all women to like me.”

“I want to get this special girl.”

“I want to buy this program that promises a quick fix.”

“I want to take this boot camp that just makes everything so much easier.”

“I want to just be spoon fed all the knowledge so I can then magically get this one girl I really like.”

“I want a lot of girls to flock to me.”

Well, okay, let’s just say you find a genie that magically grants your wishes. All of a sudden you have girls that are hanging out with you! All of a sudden you’re surrounded by cute or hot girls.

Let’s even say that somehow the genie makes it so you have a girlfriend and she’s exactly what you want.

You think that is ideal, right?

A few months ago, I was in JFK airport in New York when I decided to approach this really beautiful girl.

I hate to use ratings (aside from clickbait titles ; ) because I feel ratings kind of mess you up when you start using them (it’s a validation seeking slippery slope). But just to help you understand her beauty – she was movie star hot. She could have easily been on the cover of Maxim magazine. A really attractive girl.

She was with her mother and her little brother. And she was saying goodbye to her best friend who was going to Istanbul.

I saw her as I was waiting in line to check-in my bags.  Her small group was waiting in line at the other check-in nearby. I’d say I was about 10 feet away from them.

She was dressed in tight jeans and a short tight shirt that was showing a bit of her sexy flat stomach. She had perfect proportions. A Coke bottle shape. Just ridiculous!

The hot babe and her friend were hugging. It looked like her friend and the friend’s mother were leaving and going to Istanbul for a while.  They had several huge pieces of luggage.

At first, I hesitated because I didn’t want to go in and interrupt their emotionally charged hug. I wanted to be somewhat calibrated.

Another reason I hesitated is that sometimes these really hot girls still intimidate me. Even though I think I’ve come such a long way and I don’t care what happens most of the time, sometimes these really hot ones affect me. Some of them send me straight into my head.

I believe the reason is because I have not approached and slept with enough of them. They are rarer. This was the type of girl that if she walked through a restaurant, everybody would turn their heads to follow her. At least every guy with a working penis.

As soon as they finished hugging, I went in.

Today I want to talk to you about rejection.

Now, this is a very important subject because a lot of guys avoid approaching women because they fear rejection. Most are paralyzed by it and it’s the main reason they don’t take any action.

I want to let you know that rejection is perfectly normal.

No matter how good your game gets, no matter what you learn, there’s nothing absolutely nothing that will help you avoid rejection! And I say this having been in the seduction community for over 18 years.

Even a guy with very good game, will still get rejected.

A lot of people don’t know this because the seduction gurus lie about it and say you can use “secret” techniques in order to avoid it. Their techniques actually lead you to even more rejection because when you use those techniques you become outcome dependent.

So what’s the REAL secret?

Today I’m going to tell you about what I learned from being in the seduction community for over 17 years.

Now, I’m not going to be going over techniques or strategies on picking up women. I’m going to be covering BIG picture stuff. These are important lessons that you’d normally learn over time, but I am going to freely share them with you because I think they will greatly benefit you on your journey.

I’m going to be going over 5 of them today and I think I’m going to do a part 2 in the future because I have other things I’ve learned that I want to share. Do read the entire article because they get better as I progress through them.

Ok so let’s go over lesson number 1!

So today I want to talk about how you can be the kind of asshole or jerk that women love. There are two kinds of assholes, the caring asshole and the uncaring asshole.

The caring asshole, and this is where 99% of nice guys end up after deciding they are going to be asshole for a change, goes from being nice to being an asshole by becoming misogynistic, insulting women, putting them down, acting overly macho, etc.

Now even though a guy may be acting like this, he still cares what these women think of him. He still cares about getting these women to date him or to like him. He still wants validation from women. The women’s reactions are important to him. So he’ll insult a woman hoping that may get her to like him. If a woman rejects him, he will be quick to call her a “bitch” or to insult her back. Rejections mess with his internal state. He is not emotionally stable.