I asked you guys to respond to the video I posted on masculinity and I have to say I’m pretty pleased with the responses. Before I go over how Louie could have dealt with the confrontation, I would like to take a moment to give him credit for a few things he did right.

At the beginning of the clip Louie and his date have just finished having dinner. When they come out of the restaurant, she compliments him on his selection and seems somewhat impressed that he “knows all the good places.” He doesn’t take it too seriously and makes a joke out of it saying, “I’ve been alive for a while and I like to eat.”

He asks her to grab a drink, but her attraction for him is kind of weak. At the same time, she has a genuine concern because she’s working in the morning – so she declines the drink offer. Louie could have given up here, but he persists and asks her if she wants to go grab some doughnuts.

In the next segment, we see them building rapport and becoming more comfortable with each other. They are laughing and she’s touching him. Things are going well and you can see her attraction for him increasing.

But then the high school jocks come in. They start making noise and then the confrontation takes place. So what could Louie have done differently to prevent the date from turning into a disaster?

The term masculinity is defined as “possessing qualities or characteristics considered typical of or appropriate to a man.”

But what are the characteristics of a masculine man?

Are we talking about being able to change the oil on your car or knowing how to throw a football?

Not really.

Manly characteristics aren’t that superficial. They go much deeper and unless you get a good grasp of them, you’ll never know what attracts women to men. So what are these attractive characteristics that a masculine man would possess?