The term masculinity is defined as “possessing qualities or characteristics considered typical of or appropriate to a man.”
But what are the characteristics of a masculine man?
Are we talking about being able to change the oil on your car or knowing how to throw a football?
Not really.
Manly characteristics aren’t that superficial. They go much deeper and unless you get a good grasp of them, you’ll never know what attracts women to men. So what are these attractive characteristics that a masculine man would possess?
I believe a masculine man possesses these characteristics:
- Confidence
- Sense of humor
- Strong eye contact
- Good body language
- Loud clear speaker
- Leader (leads interactions)
- Dominant (not aggressive or dominating)
- Strong (beliefs and reality)
- Self reliant (not needy – sexually or emotionally)
- Interesting
- Comfortable (anywhere)
- Positive (optimistic)
- Always learning
- Unpredictable
- Uncontrollable (a challenge)
- Sexual skills
- Follows his OWN standards thus is INTERNALLY VALIDATED
- Does not look for approval from others
- Does things because that is part of who he is
- Persistence
Conveying these characteristics, makes women feel attraction for the man who is displaying them. The more characteristics you posses, the stronger a woman will emotionally respond to you. The characteristics above are literally the keys to attracting a woman.
In the video below, you will see an example of what happens when a man fails to be masculine. After the video ends, I want you to take a few minutes and think of what you would have done in the main character’s situation. Leave your response in the comment section. I will make a follow up post giving a few examples of how the protagonist could have reacted and which reaction would have been the most appropriate.
Edit 07/08/2019: It appears Fox Entertainment Group is no longer allowing me to show the video. After trying to host it on several video sharing sites and getting flagged by their tenacious reps multiple times, I’ve decided to stop posting the video. The video I wanted to show you was taken from an episode of the FX show “Louie” called Bully (Season 1, Episode 9)
Remember to leave a comment stating what you would have done in his situation!
Then you can mosey on down to the masculinity analysis video to find out what Louie should have done.
When the guys came in and started being rowdy he should have taken the lead, been assertive and discreetly prompted an immediate exit, leaving money for the bill on the table. This would have shown that he cared about her comfort, he was a protector and wanted to remove her from a potentially volatile situation.
He should have led her away from the potential agro, ushering her out of the door first, apologised for taking her there and offered to take her somewhere else to make it up to her so that the night could end on a positive note.
It was not cool how he turned childish and defensive when she was honest and admited she’d lost interest in him. Trying to make her feel bad made him even more of a loser. He showed his true colours, by being bitter. She had a lucky escape.
Personally he started off with the lady with lack of confidence and presiding her to come to the ‘coffee shop’, and giving her excuses or reasons for his preference. He was not confidence with his answer and will keep justifying to just please her. Once he was seated his body language showed he was not fully confident with himself by sloughing.
If i were in his situation and the young jog came I would stand up show my presence of a man and give a strong hand shake. Advise the jog that there is a lady in the room and to respect her presence being there. If the young jog continues, I would most likely lose my control and beat his ass LOL..
Jokes aside I would take the woman to a safer location as not any girl would like to see a fight especially with a younger teenager.
She did him a favor by telling him what she felt and instead of a real man he took it as offensively insult and started mocking and insulting her, which is very childish to do to a woman let alone to anyone.
Wow, that was really painful to watch.
I would have stood up, first of all, then stared him down. I would tell him to go away and leave me and my date alone in a loud voice, repeating it over and over until he either backed down or hit me. If he hit me, I’d do my best to kick his ass.
Even if I got my ass kicked, I would have kept my self-respect and the respect of my date by showing I’m not a pussy. I certainly wouldn’t try to blame her for what happened. That just proves what a total loser that guy is.
Wow, he displayed many no no’s. First he was asking her does she want to do something. This is a sign of lack of leadership, and confidence. He talked about himself too much(seeking approval). A man should give instructions. Also, he should have left the store with the lady. She was right it was a “primitive thing”. This is just the process of self preservation, women need protectors. He also reacted very sensitively like his mother didn’t give him attention as if he was a two year old. The problem with men now a days is that they have allowed themselves to be programmed with this new age feminist crap of women wanting “soft, gentle sensitive men”, don’t be assertive, blah, blah. That’s become the politically correct thing for women to say. Though it is ahem..bullshit. Be a Man!
I feel, after watching him, that he was weak and didn’t do what he should have done. He should have been more assertive and confident or he shouldn’t have been there in the first place. When it came to the guys being noisy jerks in the coffee shop, he shouldn’t have stayed there but left. In the rare instance that the teen-age knuckleheads decided to stop him, then you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do. Hell yeah, you may get your ass kicked but it’s better than wimping out and then getting childishly defensive towards the end there like Louie did. Of course, if he chose to stay there after he asked the rowdies to keep it down, he should have planned for what was going to happen next. By allowing the young guy to do the talking and taking the lead, he ended up looking a lot weaker. Hell, act crazy, be brave OR if he’s not ready for that, then get the heck out of dodge in the first place.
I wouldn’t have asked for them to be quiet, thats for sure…
I really liked this example. And I am curious to know which movie is this. Could you tell me which movie is this one? Thank you.
greeting Jack
would you please tell about the biggest mistake he has done to spoil his date?
Well, what about the principle of mirror, when he asked about kicking his ass? Something like: “Ok Sean, how would you feel, if you would be on a date with a girl you like and I took my 4 friends and we would be really loud? Would you like it?”
Ondřej, I don’t think Sean has enough empathy to put himself in Louie’s place. It wouldn’t work and it’s still kind of a way to wiggle out of the confrontation. You can’t reason with someone that comes at you with his fists.
I think he did the right thing. First he hushed the group. This step require courage.
Group of teenagers are sometimes like a pack of wolfs. Second he didn’t lose his temper. Fighting with a teenager is a major turn off. Third he aswered the teenager with Sarcasm and Cynicism.
The world would be a better place if people use more their tongue and not their fists.